International Family Day: The Kanabars prove big families still work

Rajkot: For nearly three decades, the doors of the Kanabar household have opened every morning not to separate families heading in different directions, but to one large family beginning the day together.

At a time when urban India is increasingly embracing compact nuclear families and private lifestyles, the Kanabars continue to hold on to a tradition that many now consider rare — living together under one roof.

The family of Pravin Kanabar has spent the last 29 years sharing not just a home, but responsibilities, celebrations, hardships and everyday routines. Even after the passing of the family patriarch a few years ago, the bond remained intact. Today, 15 members across generations continue to live as one family, gathering around the dining table every evening without fail.

Pravin and his brothers — Vijay, Praful and Dinesh — are engaged in businesses linked to the marketing yard and the real estate sector. Yet, despite managing independent professional responsibilities, the family believes their greatest investment has been in staying united.

“We are 15 members including our spouses and children, but we tell people we are 16 because our cook is also part of our family,” Pravin says with a smile, offering a glimpse into the warmth that defines the household.

What makes the story remarkable is not just the number of people living together, but the absence of any desire to split apart.

“In the last three decades after my marriage, not a single member has thought of moving out. We adjust for each other because relationships matter more,” he says.

The Kanabars believe the strength of a joint family lies in its invisible safety net. During illness, financial difficulties or personal crises, responsibilities are shared and emotional support is immediate — something they feel many nuclear families miss out on.

The family credits its harmony to constant communication, mutual respect and shared responsibilities. Decisions are discussed collectively, while everyday life revolves around togetherness rather than individual convenience.