‘I will marry this girl or be a lifelong bachelor’: JD Vance reveals how he became ‘obsessed’ with wife Usha after first meet

Mother’s Day 2026 was special for MAGA Republicans. Three of the leading ladies of the Trump administration are pregnant or have recently given birth to their children. While Karoline Leavitt announced the birth of her daughter Viviana on May 1st, Katie Miller and Usha Vance are pregnant with their fourth child.On the occasion of the day, US Vice President JD Vance took to X (formerly Twitter) to congratulate his wife while also sharing an exclusive excerpt from his upcoming book where he reveals how he got ‘obsessed’ with Usha. “This is a particularly special Mother's Day in the Vance clan, as Usha is about to become a mom for the fourth time. We thought it would be fun to put out a little excerpt from my new book about the early days of our relationship. To all the moms out there, but especially to Usha: Happy Mother's Day!” he wrote.The American VP is all set to publish a new memoir, his second. His first book ‘Hillbilly Elegy’, released in 2016, was about his childhood plagued by abuse, alcoholism and poverty. However, his upcoming book, ‘Communion: Finding My Way Back to Faith’ is about rediscovering religion. In Communion, he reflects on his conversion to Catholicism after a Protestant upbringing and a stint as an atheist. "A critical part of that journey was falling in love with a girl who would eventually become a mother four times over," Vance told USA TODAY in a statement.In the excerpt, Vance shared how before he went to law school, one of his best friends, Mike was going through a breakup. “All the standard clichés applied as I did my best to soothe my buddy with a combination of good conversation and copious amounts of Natural Light,” he wrote.Vance analysed how during his relationship, his friend had acknowledged that he and his girlfriend weren’t a good match, she was jealous, demanded too much of his time and more. However, in the midst of heartache, he recounted her as perfect, beautiful and the love of his life. He confessed that when he saw his friend bawling his eyes out in a car for a girl, he realised that he had never felt the same heartache in his own dating life.Vance shared a tale of his own dating life when he was dating a girl named Mary during and after college. “She was sweet, and she wanted the same things out of life that I did: a nice house, a decent job, and a couple of kids. My family got along with her fine. No relationship is perfect, but nothing seemed like a deal breaker,’ he wrote. However, he noted that as much as he liked her, he felt he would “get over it quickly” if she dumped him the next day.This is why he told Mike that he might not have the “gene or something” for love. “I’ve just never fallen head over heels for a girl. Some are better and some are worse. I could rate Mary on all these objective criteria, and she’s mostly great. But would I sob if she broke up with me? No way. Isn’t that a problem?” he asked Mike and concluded that maybe he’s “just not that emotional.”A few months later, Vance was in a long-distance relationship with Mary while staying in New Haven for his first year of law school. On a late-night walk on a rainy day, he realised that the entire time he was thinking about another student: Usha Bala Chilukuri.“Dude, I think I’m obsessed with this chick in my small group. It’s unhealthy,” he said to Mike on a call. The small group was a cluster of sixteen students with whom he shared all of his first-year classes. “I told him all about her: That she was smarter than everyone. That her smile could light up a room. That she had the most amazing posture,” he wrote.“She doesn’t even walk like normal people. Normal girls seem kind of unstable in high heels,” I told him. “Not her. She glides across the room in whatever shoes she wears. And her laugh, man. Whenever she laughs it’s, like, the most wonderful thing. She’s super reserved, but she has this chortle that is the best sound I’ve ever heard.”And just like every best friend does, Mike reminded Vance that he did have the gene to “fall head over heels for a girl.”Vance shared how as the second couple of the country, they were written and analysed a lot. He quoted an interview where one of his classmates said he was attracted to Usha for her 'ambitions', on which they both laughed.He shared there were a few things about Usha he thought were unusual: she was intensely competitive, incapable of jealousy, and uninterested in traditional markers of success. Usha’s dream job at the time was to run the Sesame Workshop because she loved kids and the idea of making educational programming that appealed to them. “You have the biggest mismatch between ambition and ability of any person I’ve ever met. You could be the Chief Justice of the Supreme Court and you have no interest in it,” he said to her.Vance wrote how he was drawn to Usha unlike he “had ever been drawn to anyone,” and broke up with Mary since he couldn’t imagine settling for anyone else. “I will marry this girl,” I told my friends. “Or I will be a lifelong bachelor.”He also wrote that unlike the traditional steps of playing hard to get or waiting it out, he told Usha before they dated that he was in love with her and, within a few weeks of dating, that he wanted to marry her. While calling himself a “lousy boyfriend”, Vance said he didn’t deserve Usha, but “still she stuck around.”