5 times you should ABSOLUTELY NOT go back to your ex

Most of us have been there. In the wee hours, when the whole world is quite asleep, your thoughts grow louder. It feels like you need a shoulder to cry on. The urge to text them creeps in. But then you realize why the relationship ended in the first place. While most of us tend to reach out to the ex when things go wrong, here are 5 times when going back is the worst idea.

Yes, there is a certain comfort in going back to old habits. However, you certainly should not go back to your ex when you are feeling lonely. This will open a window into rekindling an old flame. You can miss your ex and still not want them in your life. Before you ‘almost b*tt dial’ your ex, ask yourself if you are missing this person, or if you are missing having someone? If you can't answer honestly, don’t even think about opening the closed chapter.

Okay, this is non-negotiable. Your poison has a way of lowering your guard and romanticising the past. The alcohol in your tummy will tell you that you absolutely ‘love’ your ex. But that’s not true! There is a reason why you shouldn’t be drinking and dialing. Texting or calling your ex when you are drunk usually comes from impulse, not intention. Avoid making the same mistakes, unless you really want to.

Desperate times call for desperate measures. But it does not have to be your ex. Going back to an ex when you're feeling low only means one thing: you are ready to settle for less than you deserve. Instead, dial a friend, who will boost your confidence. Hold on to someone who makes you feel worthy, not someone who has already proved they could walk away.

Maybe it's a bad day, a family situation, or a bad day at work. You are running from something and want a quick escape. So, you knock on your ex’s door to forget it. But that’s exactly where things get complicated. You are romanticizing the past. You are forgetting why you left. Ensure that you are going in the right direction before considering getting back with your ex. Desperate choices do not always end up well.

It is easy to repeat the same mistakes. If you have already gotten back together and then broken up multiple times, it's a cycle. You definitely don’t want to get on the merry-go-round. There is a reason why the relationship failed, despite trying to glue it together multiple times. Real partnerships don't require constant do-overs. So, know that some doors need to stay closed.