She’s ‘ma’ best buddy

This Mothers Day, we get to know the cool mums in the city and how their relationship with the kids have evolved over time...
Be it the Valentine’s Day or the friendship day, we end up running to our mum’s for sneaking out that extra dough. Now, what will be the scene if the mother’s have a day to celebrate and be taken extra care? (Just recall being emotional with the ‘Amma endra alaikaatha uyire illaye’ Rajnikanth , the ‘Thaai illamal naan illai’ MGR or the ‘ Kaalayil thinamum kanvilithal’ SJ Surya)
Mother’s versatility
Gone are the days of strict and overprotective mothers.Nowadays, it is very rare to find one such mother with sturdy looks. Every mother has evolved their personality and character so that their kids would treat them as friends, rather than a mother. Deepa Kumaran a student says,” “Right from my childhood, my mother welcomes me home from my school bus with a tight hug and a kiss. I can remember her saying me ‘I love you’ every time we meet after school. She portrayed herself as a kid when I was a kid. She did things that I like doing at that time. When I listened to rock songs during my teenage she also enjoyed it and bought me new releases. Be it the food, dress and my friends, she had a thorough knowledge on everything. In short, she grew up with me.”
There is always a preconceived notion that the generation gap will tie the mothers and the daughters/sons into a misunderstanding. Any family is bound to overcome these arguments. But, in some cases the gap is reduced. “I talk about everything to my mom because she never jumps into conclusions. She discusses the issues with me that most of the time circles around my boyfriends. She introduced the complicated ideas of life at my appropriate ages. Therefore, all my doubts were cleared with long and one-on-one discussions. This does not mean that my mom is easy with my mistakes. She pings me at the right place and at the right time when I commit one. She takes care that I don’t get hurt and feel inferior after being identified doing a mistake”, adds Deepa.
Breaking boundaries
Mothers often have difficulties in knowing their boundaries with their children’s privacy. Lakshmi Nathan, an entrepreneur and a mother of two kids shares, “I always make it a point that my kids have freedom with their thoughts and actions. They should have a place in them and even in their room where even the mother’s are not allowed to enter or explore. Every mother should know that their child is also growing and he/she will try to adapt themselves to the world. But, how can a mother be intolerant if her child knowingly falls into a pit? That’s the speciality of a mother. It is always better for a mother to think from her child’s shoes rather than being biased. The one another important thing is to talk about such doubts that demand an explanation from their side. I would advise the mothers not to miss these moments, because before you know it they’ll be going to college and working. You will never have this moment again so when you do have it, cherish it!
Gaps do exist
Occassionally, mums and daughters get into tiny tiffs just like dads and sons do. Kannan , a government official says, “My wife argue all day! But, it is strange when they come together all of a sudden and are seen sharing a beautiful mother-daughter bond. Whether a male is a husband or a father, he is doomed for confusions.” grins the perplexed man.