6 relationship advice I wish I knew at 23

Navigating through relationships during early twenties is complex as well as transformative. During this age you learn a lot from different experiences. While there is no universal recipe for success there do exist some valuable pieces of advice about how to go about a relationship or even a situation-ship while in your early 20s. Here are 6 relationship advice I wish someone had given to me when I was 23.

You cannot fully claim to or love someone until you are in 100% love with yourself. Quirks and flaws and all combined. Before you can fully love and understand someone else, you must love and understand yourself. So, take the time to explore your own interests, passions, and values. Embrace your strengths and weaknesses. Self-discovery is a lifelong journey, but the more you know yourself, the better equipped you'll be to find a compatible partner who aligns with your values and goals.

Healthy relationships are built on open and honest communication. Learn to express your thoughts and feelings openly but respectfully. You should also listen actively to your partner and try to understand their perspective.

Avoid bottling up emotions or resorting to passive-aggressive behavior. Effective communication is the cornerstone of resolving conflicts and fostering intimacy in your relationship.

No matter how much you love and adore each other, it is important to set boundaries even between the two of you. So, establish clear boundaries early on, including emotional, physical, and personal space boundaries. Boundaries help you maintain your individuality within a partnership and ensure both partners feel safe and respected. Be prepared to communicate and negotiate boundaries as your relationship evolves. Take note, having individual rooms when you live together is NOT a sign of a cracked relationship but rather just a safe space for each of you.

It is easy to say that a relationship isn’t 50-50 but rather fluctuates between the two partners. Sometimes one gives their 80% and sometimes the other. But, when you are the one giving that 80% to the relationship all the time and feel that your partner lacks the ability to invest more into the relationship, it's time to have a conversation.

Similarly, it is not healthy to always be showered in gifts and riches without reciprocating the same. If you cannot give back the same energy please do not accept someone else’s.

While your chemistry can be exhilarating (be it sexual or romantic), it's not always a reliable indicator of long-term compatibility. Like the old saying goes, a fair colour cannot be the foundation of your relationship. So, look beyond physical attraction and infatuation. Consider shared values, life goals, future aspirations and the ability to communicate effectively. A deep emotional connection and compatibility are essential for a lasting, fulfilling relationship.

Each relationship, whether successful or not, offers valuable lessons.