From past one year, my mind is going insane about the topic of marriage. I belong to an age group to which most of the people tag it as “Marriageable Group”. Till now I haven’t got my answer to who has made this range of age. I don’t know why parents and the people around (relatives, friends, neighbours) are more concerned about your marriage than you yourself. I would like to share one example. When we get our results for Board exams and all, parents and the people around are more concerned in your results but when you have to choose a stream after your results these people aren’t concerned except parents, nobody bothers to guide you in making the decision. So this makes me think that here the output is more concerned rather than the start of the process.
But for the marriage-related thing, the people around you are more concerned regarding the start of the process rather than the output of the marriage. Such an irony right.
I understand that parents are concerned about their child’s future but in the end, it is the child who has to stay and be happy with the other person. Parents should understand, that, just because the neighbours’ daughter is getting married that doesn’t mean you should marry your daughter. Everyone is unique and has a different opinion on things.
And a parent should ask their child what kind of person they want as their life partner rather than finding a match who sits perfectly in parents, siblings, relatives, neighbours eye.
This all makes me sick because, I myself, is going through all this trauma everyday other day and believe being a girl it really takes the hell out of you because the pressure you have in your life regarding career and to add extra cheese is the marriage pressure. I don’t know when the parents will able to understand the concept of marriage in today’s “century”, I am saying ‘century’ because there are a lot of changes in the marriages done during olden days and now. People, especially the youngsters are getting practical and logical in their decision.
I just want to say to all the parents out there, who are concerned about their child’s marriage is that- Don’t worry, Don’t freak out on your son’s/daughter’s age or career. Let them be what they are. Let them be ready to get married, rather than you being ready because, in the end, they are the one who will be staying and spending their life with the other person.
this is the problem with most of the parents and few of them are not even asking whether their son/daughter is ready for the marriage or not...hope pe...