Women share their experiences after going through a divorce

Divorce is a painful process for some but for many, it is a key to freedom from toxic relationships. We spoke to some women who had recently got a divorce forced or by choice and here are some anonymous confessions that many of us may be able to relate to.

I was in an emotionally abusive marriage for 3 years and it never seemed to end. Every day gave me a different challenge. I was managing my career, my baby, and my in-laws along with the daily house chores with zero help from my husband, and then on top of that he would yell at me for everything. I used to get palpitations every night and my baby boy would start crying at the top of his lungs at the same time. I was always living on the edge and had become jumpy because of his behaviour. So, when I eventually signed on the dotted line to end it all, I felt what birds feel when set free from the cage. I experienced what dogs feel when the leash and collar are set aside. It was like a huge boulder had been lifted from my chest and mind.

My ex-husband and I had a love marriage and we were together for good 9 years including 6 years of dating. I had become so dependent on him for my emotional support. Whenever the light went, I just had to reach out a little and found his hand reciprocating my grip. My world would in a way revolve around him. The day he filed for divorce saying he had lost interest in me and loved me no longer, I felt lost. All the happiness had gone away in those 5 minutes. It has been 2 years since then and I am still collecting myself, strengthening myself, and taking time to heal.

Ours was a love marriage but when we started living together, things changed. His behaviour was that of a man child, his parents encouraged that behaviour and he was completely irresponsible. I slowly began losing sight of a future together. When I closed my eyes I saw nothing. But, after filing for divorce and becoming free from that pointless relationship which was one-way traffic, I started seeing my future again. I could see myself as a traveller, a person who is happy, a woman who was breaking norms at work and making her own name, something that had disappeared during that marriage.

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