Match made by horoscope
I belong to a family where a life partner is chosen not based on your likes, dislikes or compatibility but by how well the horoscopes of the concerned people match. And my parents were no different. Their search for a good match for their only daughter started as soon as I completed my post-graduation. Unfortunately, I am a ‘manglik’ (I don’t think I need to explain what it means) and finding a partner for someone considered inauspicious wasn’t a cakewalk.
When I fell in love
While my parents were busy finding a suitable life partner, who also needs to be a ‘manglik’ to match my horoscope and negate the adverse effects of my stars, I fell in love with one of my colleagues. Love happens and you don’t plan for it. And I was no different.
We belonged to two different religions
We belonged to two different religions and his family is very liberal and didn’t believe in the concept of horoscopes. But when I broke the news to my parents, they almost threatened to disown me if I married the person I was in love with. A pandit was called immediately to find out what lies ahead in my life. And as always, he didn’t have anything good to say and prescribed a lot of puja and rituals to ward off the evil!
My parents even got a horoscope made for him
When my parents realised that I was not going to change my mind and if required, I will marry the person even without their blessings, they obliged and met his family. And when my parents collected the data needed—date of birth, year, place etc.—to make a horoscope, they immediately consulted an astrologer with the information about my then boyfriend. To their utter dismay, it was found that our horoscopes didn’t match at all. “Yeh shaadi toh ho hi nahin sakta,” the words of the astrologer still reverberates in my ears.
But we got married
Despite all the objections from my family, we stuck to our decision to tie the knot. I can still remember how reluctantly my father performed the ‘kanyadaan’ ceremony. His sad eyes still haunt me till date. A few months after our wedding, we shifted to another city and settled there.
The trouble we faced
Like any other newly-married couples, we too had our fair share of ups and downs. And since we were in a new city with a completely different environment, we had to face a lot of health and personal issues. And whenever my parents got to know about this, they always blamed my decision to marry a person whose horoscope didn’t match with mine.
With time things started falling into place
There came a time when I almost fell for what my parents said and started wondering if I made a mistake by not listening to them. One day after suffering from a bout of severe urinary tract infection, I was almost on the verge of a breakdown and ended up sharing my concern with my husband. “You think your horoscope is responsible for your low immunity? Or, the ugly fight we had last month because I made you wait in the office for an hour, was decided by our stars? Let me tell you this, when we fall sick there are medicines to cure us or when we make mistakes, we can learn from them. These struggles will only make our marriage stronger. Trust me,” these words from my husband brought back my lost confidence and I slowly started recovering and accepting life.
We have been married for 10 years
We now have been married for 10 long years and are the proud parents of a strong and healthy daughter. And we can say without any iota of doubt that we are a perfect match made by our choice and not by our horoscopes!
(All images used here are representational)
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