We are living in a world of technology. But when your man is consumed by the passion for the gadgets relegating you to the backburner, it’s time to take things in your hands and restore the right order. Turn a blind eye.
When he is doing his computer thing, use the time to read, go for a walk, call a friend or go shopping! If your guy gets angry when you tell him about this then gently hint about how you saw a guy down the street who looked great with the most incredible body. That green monster would definitely make him look at you again! Plan some outings and do it regularly so he gets a taste again for what being out and about is like.
If he is spending all your savings on his addiction to technology, set up a tighter budget. Talk to him and tell him why you are doing this and to refresh his sense of adventure, show him the brochures of the paradise islands you both wanted to visit some time ago.
If he is reasonable and has common sense he will see which options are the best. Either that or tell him for every amount he spends on computer equipment, you will spend the same again on some new clothes and shoes!
If he still wants to spend the money on computers, get firmer! If he isn’t doing his share of the housework and forgets to take out the bins, you need to get tough.
Unless he is a complete dumbo and has lost his sense of fair play (in which case you don’t want him) you should be able to get through to his logic and show him how unfair he is being.
If desperate circumstances are called for, go and stay with a friend for a couple of weeks and let him live in his own mess.
Make sure there is little if no food in the house so that he doesn’t have the luxury of you cooking his meals and shopping for the groceries. He will have to do his own washing, ironing, cooking, shopping and taking out the garbage.
If he doesn’t realise in this time what a pain in the backside he has been to live with, then you really need to look at your relationship in general. If he doesn’t respect you enough to listen to what matters to you, then you probably won’t ever find a happy medium.
Last chance – start using all the equipment so he can never use it and see how he likes it when you’re never really there.
Hopefully your man is mature enough to understand that life is more than a box of chocolates, beer, computer games and television.
Can he kiss the computer? Can the computer give him a massage? Will technology engage him in witty and intelligent conversation and make him laugh? Can the video games cook him a delicious dinner? Is he able to go out and have fun with the video recorder?
If you answer yes to any of these things... please pack a suitcase and run! Leave him to his gadgets.
