During the many stages of pregnancy, a woman’s hormones start raging here and there. From hot flashes and weird cravings to the constant urge to have sex, pregnancy needs can get pretty weird and different. Among these, women feel a rush of sexual desire and arousal during pregnancy. While it is pretty normal, most people consider sexual urges during pregnancy distasteful.
You would be surprised to hear how many women have been shamed by their own husbands or close friends for discussing sex during pregnancy.
Hence, let’s take a look at some anonymous confessions of women who shared how and when they were shamed for craving sex during pregnancy.
A high sex drive “My sex drive had hit the roof and all I could think of was sex. I wanted to have sex all the time but my husband didn’t really show any interest in getting intimate with me. He would often end up saying, ‘control your high sex drive! It’s unlikely for pregnant women to think of sex so much!’ I felt really bad about this and ever since then, I kept mum.”
Sunita, 29 years
Outer appearance“My husband stopped having sex with me because of how big I looked while I was pregnant. Even though I initiated having sex, he would stop me and then give a weird stare towards my belly that made me cower with shame. He hated looking at my big belly.”
Aranya, 34 years
Ridicule and criticism “The amount of ridicule I faced from my husband when I was upfront with my desire for sex during pregnancy was too much to handle. He would laugh and ask me to lie down quietly every time I would try to get cozy with him. But sometimes he even would become brutal with his words. Once he said, ‘women aren’t supposed to be this horny all the time. Don’t you have any shame?’ That really hit me.”
Renee, 31 years
Distant relationship “When I was pregnant with my first child, my husband and I rarely hugged or kissed. I used to feel irritated all the time and the only time I wanted to be near him was when I was turned on. But my husband wouldn’t let me. All he thought was about how having sex would harm the baby and even went on to say I care less about our child and more about having sex.”
Uma, 37 years