Are you ruining your own relationship? 6 subtle signs of self-sabotage

Almost everybody wants a fairytale-like love story ,but not everybody is capable of handling it. We often ruin our own good time without even realising that we are the one to be blamed. Every person has had a different past: starting from our childhood, our teenage years, our past relationships all have a decent share in the fact of how we mold ourselves for our future relationships.
Here are 6 signs that show you are constantly self-sabotaging your relationship with your partner.

You find yourself constantly second-guessing what your partner says or does, convinced there’s a hidden meaning or agenda behind even innocent actions. Like this, your partner says, “Have a good day,” and you replay the tone in your mind for hours, wondering if they’re sarcastically saying this wishing bad for you in reality.

During the time when your relationship is going smoothly , you suddenly start behaving weirdly and start getting irritated even with slightest flaws coming from your partner. You start mentally listing reasons why you should break up or pick up a fight based on an issue that happened long ago.

You’re repeatedly drawn to partners who are emotionally unavailable or uninterested in commitment, subconsciously ensuring that the relationship won’t move forward.

Keeping emotional distance acts as a shield because you don’t want to get too close. Your mind is trained in a way where you believe if you stay emotionally unavailable , you can’t be hurt deeply if things go wrong in the end.

Often because of getting exposed to multiple rom-coms result in setting an unrealistic expectation from your partner. In today’s world , social media has set a very unrealistic picture of love that is far from reality. Because of this, you also start expecting your partner to be your mind-reader, constant cheerleader, and solve all your problems without you even uttering a single word. Where it may sound very dreamy and film-like ,deep-down it’s not humanly possible for anyone to read someone’s mind 24*7.

Whenever things get vulnerable and your partner starts opening up to you, you withdraw emotionally, you start losing interest or pick unnecessary fights, or even start blaming yourself for losing control over your own feelings. It may happen because of your past experiences or the environment you’ve grown up surrounded by.

Has it ever happened to you that no matter how often your partner calls, texts, or compliments you, you still question their behavior? You might accuse them of not giving you enough importance or validation. This could be a sign that you're seeking constant reassurance and blaming the other person for not behaving according to your expectations. On the other hand, even if your partner frequently proves their love, you may still feel their intentions aren’t genuine. Over time, this leads to emotional exhaustion and tension in the relationship.