A proposal to remember

He wooed her, courted her, dated her, had a wonderful six-year relationship with her and asked her to marry him.
But none of that was remembered as she remorsefully recollected how aghast she had been that the ‘proposal’ had come across a dinner table, at a not-so fancy restaurant. MEN!!! At least those that are reading this, (or being made to read this by your girlfriend), a proposal is not just a proposition that will change her life forever...it is an event she will discuss with her friends, family, neighbours, your to-be children, their friends’ parents, her hairstylist at the salon, and to practically anyone and everyone she gets a chance to regale the ‘magical moment’ . It cannot be ordinary and mortifyingly ‘normal’. This is that moment, for which you have to get on the net, buy some books, consult with creative friends and create for her the one magical lifelong moment she will pull repeatedly out of her history annals with a flourish!
One friend of mine had divers deliver an engagement ring 30 metre under water on a deep sea diving expedition he was on with his girlfriend, another hired a private jet and at an altitude of 30 thousand feet told her he couldn’t go to greater heights to tell her that he loved her and wanted to spend a lifetime with her.
Dramatic, over the top and expensive, but between the clouds and the deep sea there are a lot of other romantic possibilities that may not be as extreme, or expensive, but equally creative. Hopefully, it’s a once in a lifetime moment, so don’t you think the effort is worth it?
I am in a relationship with a girl who started working in a BPO this January. I was a little insecure because of the timing and that she started hiding a lot of things from me. I told her that if she is not interested she can walk out and she said she needs time. What am I supposed to do?
Timings are not an issue unless it means you don’t get time together, but hiding things is simply not kosher. I suggest you give her time to sort out her mind and whatever is bothering her. Sometimes new environments create new personal dynamics and perhaps she’s been given a glimpse of a different life that looks alluring. She’s wet her toes, but it’ll soon be clear which way the water flows.
I am 34-year-old married woman with kids. I and my partner are both not happy, and we know that. I want to start a new life and I know that my children will accept whatever I do. He does not spend any time with them and does not support me as a husband. What do I do?
There’s absolutely no confusion here. You seem to anyway be leading the life of a single woman. Summon the courage to start life afresh, the patience to deal with all the nosy relatives, the wisdom to be best friends with the father of your kids, make sure your kids are cocooned and kept emotionally strong through it, and keep the optimism alive for a life partner to waltz into your new world. Good luck!