Here’s how keeping a SEX DIARY made my sex life more exciting!

A few months after my marriage, my husband gifted me a journal and playfully suggested that I should document our sex life. It all started as a game after we read an article about how keeping a sex diary can help rev up a person’s sex life. In fact, one of my friends had once confessed how she filled up the pages of her diary about her moderately exciting sex life. Later, she used to read those out to her partner. Surprisingly, their sex life improved by leaps and bounds. It was really interesting and I hardly needed any prodding to start my ‘sex diary’!

Trust me, starting a sex diary is much easier than it sounds. I began with simple entries like how, when and where we used to have sex. After a while, I started adding more details—things we loved, disappointments or how our sex experiences could be further improved. Once I started writing, it no longer felt like a task because after a while I enjoyed putting words to those thoughts that I would have never dared to share with any one.

I also used to fill up the pages with some interesting erotic passages that I might have read in some books or online articles. There were also notes about new things, which I wanted to try with my husband. Sometimes I used to add more details to my sex wish-list comprising the wild fantasies that I wanted to try out.

The best part about my sex diary is that it had everything—the good, bad and the ugly. If I had a bad experience or didn’t like something, I made a point to note it down. Sometimes it is very difficult to let a partner know that you are not enjoying the act, especially, when the other person loved doing it. The diary helped me to vent out my emotions.

Although I enjoyed writing but reading my thoughts that I had penned down on the diary was more interesting. On days when I wanted to play a naughty game with my husband, I used to earmark a few pages where I had jotted down my darkest desires and make my husband read those. It was very erotic because I could let him know what I wanted, which otherwise would have been impossible for me to convey through words.

According to relationship experts, communication is a hurdle that many couples struggle to overcome. Keeping a sex journal and then reading it out with your partner can help you communicate your thoughts on your sex life. Sometimes it’s not easy to talk about the problems in your sex life but if you can use your written words as a medium, then why not?