Parents, avoid these day-to-day habits that lead to self-destructive actions

The enemy that stands between us and our dreams and goals is our self-sabotaging habits. We parents never imagine that we will do things that will obstruct our success or stop us from achieving our goals, yet day in and out we fall into habits that lead to self-sabotaging actions. These are some self-destructive habits that you should recognize

Constantly comparing ourselves to other parents because you believe you can only get better by seeing your shortcomings. Learn to see your worth.

Constantly criticising yourself because you believe that if you are not hard on yourself you cannot be a good parent or give your child the life they deserve. Hang in there! You’re doing what’s best.

“You have been looking for a superficial level of perfection because you believe you are not good enough as a parent and need to be better. You’re the best they have,” says Pragati Goyal, Lead Clinical Psychologist, Lissun.

You’re a parent who likes to judge yourself when you do not live up to those parenting expectations set on you. Your life doesn’t have to end with having kids.

You treat your emotions as an enemy because you believe it is not okay to experience negative emotions. It may reflect negatively on your child and your near ones. Emotions only make you human.

You’re not keen on taking up those dance lessons you always wanted to take because you believe you are not worthy of them. Give yourself a chance.

While kids may keep you on your toes, you have given up on any kind of fitness routine. All you do is crave for bedtime. This will weaken your confidence.

You often engage in self-sabotaging habits because there is a part of you that genuinely believes that doing so will help you avoid harm. This prevents you from risk taking and showing back on opportunities.

All you do is feed your child and grab a bite or two while doing so. This is going to leave you undernourished and low on energy everyday to do things you love.

You’re always trying to control things in your life and your child’s life because you believe things are going to collapse if you don't handle things in your life. Learn to breathe and live in the moment.