Kids aren't used to sharing space or parental love with other kids. When you bring home a new baby, you don't know how your first child will react. In such cases, jealousy can be so commonly experienced.
Actress
Mindy Kaling saw the same happening in her house when she saw her 2-year-old daughter getting anxious about having a new baby brother.
Mindy, 41, who gave birth to her second child, Spencer in September has been closely observing her daughter Katherine's behaviour in the house.
While Mindy surprised the world with news of quiet lockdown pregnancy, little did she know that her first child, Katherine was quite taken aback too.
In a television interview, the director turned author revealed that Katherine wasn't too pleased about having another kid to share toys with at home.
"She was very suspicious and worried about him at the beginning...Because I think in her mind, she thought that he would come out as a 2-year-old. She kept saying like, 'I'm really worried about my toys.'"
However, it all worked out for well, and Katherine took on the elderly sister's role pretty well.
"When she saw that he was just like this helpless, little, adorable blob, but like not that interested in toys at all, she's like, 'Oh, I love this guy.'
Mindy also revealed that there's no sibling rivalry as such and instead, she feels both of her children have developed a close bond with each other.
How to make your child adjust when there's a new baby at home?Firstborn always take a while to adjust to the changed equation at home, no matter how old or young they are. Experiencing rivalry, jealousy or anxiety when they see a new baby is super natural. However, how, you as a parent attend to the situation at large makes all the difference, and can help foster a loving friendly relationship between your kids.
-Make sure you spend some time with your firstborn, alone. The new baby will demand a lot of your time, but even devoting 5 minutes of your undivided attention in a day will help your older child feel loved.
-Do not act on impulse, and accept what your child may be going through. Little ones don't know any better and may act out or express negative emotions when they see you being attentive towards another baby. Instead of acting out, or chiding them, validate their emotions.
-Surprise them with gifts. Bribing kids may not be the best option, but it's okay to offer a gift or two to your older child, especially when they see their younger sibling being showered with new gifts and pampering products. Praising them, festering activities which help children bond will help create a happy space at home.