"What's the worst thing your parents have ever said to you?"

A family comprises a number of people dealing with their own ups and downs in life. Sometimes we take the responsibility and behave generously with our family members, but sometimes the grief and frustration in us overpowers us so much that we forget our family ties.


Many kids open up on how they were hurt by their parents. Unfortunately, many of them do not recover from the aftermath of that incident.

When my body and mind crumbled together and I found it difficult to even get up from my bed, my parents did not understand me. I was going through a toxic workplace situation which took a toll on my mental health.

Even when I told my mother about the signs, she shouted at me. Instead of helping me deal with my situation she dismissed the topic of depression.

I had to rely on my friends, but unfortunately I could not discuss this with my family any further.

As a young girl, who was in her pre-puberty, I never liked the presence of my uncle around me. I was very comfortable with my other uncles but not him.


His glances, his body language and repeated attempts of doing "certain" things never gave me a good impression of him.


One day, he was verbally abusing his wife in front of our family and I sternly opposed whatever he said. My dad, unaware of the tension between us, scolded me for speaking like this to an elder. Even keeping the tension aside, whatever my uncle said was not acceptable.


But I felt bad when my dad did not see the depth of the matter and instead focused on age.

During my school days, I had scored 1 out of 10 in a test. It was a surprise test in mathematics, the subject I dread the most.


When I took the answer sheet to my dad for his signature, he gave me the most heartbreaking remark which I have never been able to forget.


He glanced at my marks and looked at me with disgust and said, "it seems as if you don't belong to this family."


I was almost disowned, though in a fit of anger, by my own father because I could not score good marks in a test I was not prepared for.

One day I had a big fight with a kid who stayed in the same locality. It was over a cricket match.


The arguments escalated to physical fights and soon we were blowing each other slaps and punches. It was then my father saw me.


In the evening when I came home, he made me stand at the door itself, did not let me inside and said in a very displeased voice that he is ashamed of being my father today.


I did not feel anything that day, but a few days later I could feel the weight of the words on my mind.

I come from a middle class family where my father is the breadwinner and my mom is the home manager.


Once I asked my dad to allow me to join a music class in my locality. My interest in music was partly because of my interest in music and partly because of the fact that many kids in my group were into one class or the other and I felt left out during the discussion.


After my repeated requests, one day my dad shouted at me saying we pay for your school fees, clothes and food isn't that enough? My mother, who was sitting in the same room, supported my dad in a silent gesture.


I did not pursue music, but years later I learned to play the violin.

​Questions to ask your mom before it's too late​