Life lesson coach shares why kids when they grow up talk angrily with their parents

Life lesson coach shares why kids when they grow up talk angrily with their parents
Adult life, busy schedules and many internal and external factors often tend to pile up and unknowingly a grown person end up talking angrily to their parents. Content creator and life lesson coach Ali shares why kids, when they grow up, feel angry while talking to their parents.In a social media post he shared, “You are fine throughout the day, calm, composed and then a call with your parents and you feel irritated, tense, almost angry. I thought something is wrong with me. Maybe I’m a little too sensitive, too reactive, until I learned something that changed everything for me and how I look at things.”
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He further said in the video, “When we talk to our parents, we don't actually react as the adults we are today. We react as the kids that grew up with them. The body remembers everything. The old criticisms, the feeling of not being fully seen, the pressure to be good, the inability to express what we actually wanted to say. And even now, if you are strong, self-independent, self-aware, your body can still slip into defense mode. He shared how piled up unexpressed emotions of the younger version of oneself can cause this anger.
“Not because they are doing something wrong now, but your body recognizes a familiar emotional environment. And the doesn’t change when we grow up into strong, self aware, self independent adults. That sudden irritation isn’t random. It’s old. It’s stored. It's like the system is saying that I still feel unsafe. It's not angered against them. It's all the unexpressed emotions from the younger version of me. What's really happening is that the inner adult is making space for the inner child in me.” Letting go of all the unsaid things can help simmer down this piled up anger and develop a healthy connection and conversation with the parents.

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