Hush! It's a very guy thing

<div class="section1"><div class="Normal"><span style="" font-style:="" italic="">In a man''s life anything can be discussed over a chilled beer or a glass of wine... and "we don''t gossip much", they affirm</span><br /><br />"Why is the concept of guys bonding with each other like women do, so alien?" actors Sanjit Bedi and Amarr Upadhyay questioned recently.A subject not many men would have the guts to discuss openly. Sure they''ll wax eloquent on friendship issues, but ask them whether they spend quality time with each other connecting like the opposite sex, and shutters come down on most faces. For, men in the city harbour a mindset that admitting to hanging out with their own kind, and enjoying themselves in the process, makes them look sissyish, even gay. <span style="" font-style:="" italic="">Chandigarh Times</span> speaks to a few courageous ones in the species, not afraid to divulge that their "guy''s night out" is the most enjoyable time spent having absolute fun. <br /><br />In the city to promote a telly show about three friends, Bedi and Upadhyay had been extremely enthusiastic about their programme since it explored the bond of friendship between two men. "We''ve connected not only on the show but even otherwise," both had averred. A few city men tell us why.<br /><br />"Being with guys can be a lot more fun than being in the company of women," avers 20-something architect Prashant Batra. And that''s nothing to balk at, ladies, for his admission has a very reasonable explanation. "We can be totally natural and not be bothered about ''performing'' in front of women. There are no admonitions if we sit up late into the night or drink more than we can handle. It''s a footloose and fancy-free evening, spent catching up on each other''s hectic lives, discussing relationships and yes women! Soul talks that enrich or lighten the heart," he reveals. <br /><br />Whatever they do, the bottom line is spending time with each other. "Catching a movie, going out for a cup of coffee or getting together for a few drinks, the idea is to hang out with your male buddies," tells businessman Bobby Garg. <br /><br />Discussions could revolve around anything. "Men talk about women when they get together. That, cars and cell phones. Another hot subject for discussion is our sad financial problems, not having enough money to spend ever," grins Devkaran, a student at PU. Adds Bobby, "Relationships, business issues, politics, men talk of just about everything, though they don''t gossip much. Being more to the point than women, we end up discussing a lot in a short span of time."<br /><br />If you thought that these sessions happen infrequently, you couldn''t be more mistaken. "It''s really important to have an evening out with the guys at least once a week," maintains Prashant while for Bobby and his gang, once a month is good. And everything seems to happen over some chilled beer or a glass of wine. "Drinking isn''t a necessity when we get together, just adds to the atmosphere. It aids heartfelt admissions and intense soul conversations," admits Devkaran. <br /><br />So it isn''t just a myth, male bonding is as much part of a guy''s life like girlie fun is for women. They just need to enjoy it more openly!<br /><span style="" font-style:="" italic="">nikita.singh@timesgroup.com</span></div> </div>