My way or no way!

<div class="section1"><div class="Normal"><span style="" font-style:="" italic="">Six out of 10 Mumbaiites are control freaks, say experts</span><br /><br />''Here, let me do it myself! You can''t do it properly.'' -- how many times have we heard that before? Psychologists suggest that we are getting increasingly obsessed with ''taking control'' -- insisting that all our work be done our way.<br /><br />A study, recently conducted by a leading healthcare company, reveals that there is a connection between the high-stress lifestyle and control-seekers. It also suggests that four out of 10 people are control freaks. <br /><br />In Mumbai, psychologists estimate that six out 10 people have control issues. "The need to control arises from a need for perfection. We want to achieve too many things and do everything right," says relationship counsellor Brinda Jaising. <br /><br />Control freaks see themselves as protecting an ungrateful world from mistakes and feel that no one can do a job better than them, say experts.<br /><br />Says banker and a self-confessed control freak, Yatin Rai, "I plan everything way in advance. I feel I''ll make lesser mistakes." <br /><br />City women, especially mothers, also need complete control, feels Jaising. Incessant worries over children''s studies, delivering at work, shopping, etc. are contributing factors. "One is under too much pressure to do things the right way. There''s a constant need to prove oneself," she explains.<br /><br />Control freaks find themselves in a vicious cycle, feel experts. They fret to avoid stress, thus causing even more stress. Rai accepts, "I think I trouble myself more that way." It''s not easy for colleagues or the family to adjust. Says accountant Tanvi S, whose sister is one such control-seeker, "Their problem is they delegate work, but not authority." <br /><br />Therefore, control freaks often weave around them a culture of blame, fear and low morale. There are health repercussions too. "Control freaks can get too excited frequently. This could result in physical ailments over a period of time," says Jaising. <br /><br />The solution, she suggests, lies in delegation and trust. </div> </div>