Are you dating Mr Wrong?

It's definitely not an easy task to find the right mate, especially for women who are known to be extra choosy and cautious.
At times, even trivial issues can give them nightmares about their future life. Almost all of us get jittery about our relationships at one point or the other. "Has my partner fallen out of love?" "Did I fail to find the right guy?" "Is it time to call it quits?" These are common queries.
If you are sailing in the same boat, then it's high time to cast a subjective look towards your relationship! Try and locate where your relationship is heading towards? Is it destined to doom or it can be worked out and you just are making a mountain out of a molehill.
Relationship expert, Dr Amrita Goel says, "When you are stressed and unhappy because of your love life, when your dates constantly end up in disagreements, when you feel that respect is the last consideration between you two, chances are rife that you are hooked to the wrong man."
Here are a few warning signals indicating a wrong choice that you might just be ignoring since long...
I need some space!
In a relationship, it is very important to realise where you are supposed to draw a line. Partners often end up bothering each other in the name of being responsible towards each other. Trying to make that special effort to become soul mates who confide in each other for every small thing, couples often end up posing as privacy invaders.
Rashi Saxena, a Delhi-based advertising professional, says, "The accountability factor has started bugging me now. I have to give my man extended explanations if I put his call on hold or reject his call. If he gets to hear a new guy's name from my mouth, I have to convince him to the core that there is nothing that interests me about that guy. I do love him, but these interrogation sessions are intolerable."
Expert speak: Dr Kamal Khurana, a marriage and relationship counselor explains, "It might feel nice at times to have a possessive and protective lover, but if they start expecting a daily report from you, it becomes irritating. Therefore, make your partner understand that he must trust you and that you have a life beyond him. If he is really into you, he will definitely try to change for the better."
Criticising me seems to be his hobby!
Nobody is perfect in this world. But if your partner can only see your weaknesses, you really need to take a close account of your relationship. Amrita Puri, a BPO executive reveals, "Right from my nail polish, perfume, brands I wear, to my career- my boyfriend makes fun of everything. Initially, I took him seriously and even tried to change myself, but it didn't help. Once, amidst a bunch of friends he started questioning my professional capabilities and I was utterly embarrassed and shocked. It obviously ended up in a fight and I decided not to see his face gain."
Expert Speak: "Many people have lovers with an extremely critical attitude. At times, it depresses them to an extent that even dates and meetings start losing their charm. In certain cases, it may mar a partner's self-esteem leaving them questioning their true potential. Criticism should be welcomed only if it is healthy, otherwise it will only end up embarrassing the other person," tells Dr Amrita Goel.
I know just one side of him!
Do you really feel like a complete part of your lover's life? Does it often come to your mind that there's more to your lover that you don't know till now? Well, you must know that the time is ripe to sit across the table with him. Many men have a habit to hide their personality traits and certain aspects of their life from the other, leaving their better half playing guessing games all the time.
Chitra Rawat, a lawyer says, "I have never met my boyfriend's friends. He comes to my house, but has never invited me to his home. Every Sunday he is busy with something for the entire day and I remain clueless about his whereabouts. I don't have any idea about things like his father's profession or what is his mother's opinion about our relationship. It's been three years, since we are together and I am still an outsider for him. Do I really have a reason enough to marry him?"
Expert speak: Dr Khurana suggests, "Some people are like an open book, everybody knows everything about them. Then there are others who take time to open up and be candid about their life. If you still think that you know very little about your partner, change your approach. Tell him that him intimately matters to you, show him your caring side and take up the indirect path to your goal."
It's only sex that interests him!
There is something wrong for sure, if your boyfriend remembers your vital stats, but finds hard to recall your birthday, your best friend's name or the place where you work. Samridhi Prasad, a medical professional tells, "We share a great chemistry when it comes to sex, but otherwise I find my boyfriend a little careless. The only way to get him in the mood or patch up after a fight is sex. Is this his subtle way to tell me-'please leave'?"
Expert speak: Dr TP Jindal states, "If your beloved has no interest in your personal life or has never tried to find out your likes and dislikes - it seems you have just made a bed buddy for yourself. Rather than accepting it as your destiny, either try to change it or reconsider the relationship."
He is too flirtatious!
When it comes to love, nobody likes to share even a bit of his or her beloved's attention with someone else. And girls take this rule quite seriously.
Geetanjali Soni, an MBA student shares, "My boyfriend comes from an advertising background, so he is quite open-minded and has a unending retinue of friends (read girl pals). Every time we plan a date, one of his friends tags along with us. Whenever I see those girls falling over my guy after getting drunk, I actually turn green. His ex-girlfriend still calls him and he returns the favour in the name of a friendly gesture. I usually find myself striving for his attention."
Expert Speak: Dr Amrita Goel suggests, "Communication is the only secret formula, when it comes to dealing with relationships. At times there is a lifestyle problem between two people as their mind set is poles apart. Before you term your guy as a Casanova, you should just tell him what is it in then that bothers you. You never know, he might start relating to what you are going through, and would try to change. But if he doesn't, than you have to take the call on the status of your relationship."
I am a 'no commitment' man
If a guy tells you that marriage doesn't interest him, then you better trust him. Ruchi Tripathi, a media person tells, "I have been dating this guy for the past two years. Since the beginning, he has been telling me that he loves me, enjoys my company but the word marriage makes him nervous. Being hitched does not fit in his 'to-do list' anywhere. I thought, I would gradually convince him for marriage, but it seems I have miserably failed."
Expert speak: Dr Jindal says, "There can be several reasons why people are commitment phobic. For instance, their parents might have had a bad marriage or they have gone through a bad break-up phase or are too sacred to lose their existing lifestyle. Some people just need some counseling and an understanding partner to come out of the situation. However, there are others who completely turn anti-marriage and it becomes difficult to deal with them."