Dating an attractive woman? Watch out!

Let's be honest ��� who doesn't want to date an attractive bombshell? They are show stoppers wherever they go, have men drooling all over them as they possess all the right reasons to boost a man's self-esteem and even multiplying his sexual desirability. And, no points for guessing ��� pretty women know it all!
Considering that the woman of your dreams is constantly flooded with proposals and can afford to be selective about the men she dates, knowing how to deal with a pretty lass and win her is no child's play.You really need to think of 'out-of-the-box' ideas when dating an attractive woman. Here are some tips to help you...
Don't pamper her
Not surprisingly, attractive women love to be pampered, needless to say ��� they are also high maintenance. So, don't spoil her with expensive gifts or a lavish dinner incessantly. Don't pay attention to her over every little thing as that is what she is most likely expecting. Treat her like she is nothing extraordinary and don't be surprised if she makes the first move...
Sarika Gupta (name changed on request), 25, a media professional confesses, "I may sound arrogant, but I have always been considered very good-looking. Whenever I am out with my friends or at a party, being approached by men doesn't come as a surprise anymore, but I believe it gets irritating after a while. I wonder how many of these men are interested in knowing me and not just intimidated by my looks alone. And the day I find such a guy, I don't mind being the one who pops the question."
Ignore her whims
No matter how awestruck you are by her looks, don't show it blatantly. Try looking around at other women. Good-looking women have more than they could ask for, especially when it comes to seeking flattery and attention from men. So, what do you do to catch her eye? Be different. Even if you want to start a conversation, talk to her like you would talk to any other person. Pick up lines are a complete no-no.
Dr. Ritu Nanda, a psychologist and counselor explains, "It's natural for a person to be attracted to someone who isn't giving him/her the attention he/she is used to. Most women feel uncomfortable talking to a stranger. So, one should be very careful with how you begin your conversation with a woman."
Don't push for sex
She is gorgeous, sexy and you just can't get your eyes off her, you want to grab her right away, but hold on. When you look at her with lust, she knows exactly what's on your mind. So take it easy. Play-hard-to get, don't give in to her easily. Say something like, "You are not up to my expectations" or "Let's just be friends to begin with." The less desperate you are, the more magnetic the sexual pull.
Manmeet Bhalla, a marriage and relationship counselor suggests, "You are most likely to scare someone away if you sound too desperate for sex before the person is even thinking about it. It's very important to be patient before you advance in a relationship. Mutual consent and compatibility is of utmost importance."
Be stingy with compliments
She has already got loads of them. So, be like a breath of fresh air in her life. Talk about her work, interests and friends. Don't be too generous when it comes to complimenting her. Even if you put her on cloud nine where she is used to being, follow it up by saying something not-so-great. If she gets a hair-cut, say something like, "Nice hair style, but it's quite common, isn't it?"
Akshat Dua (name changed on request), 26, confesses, "I have a very good-looking girlfriend, but at times I find it difficult to deal with her extraordinary looks. She spends a lot of time in front of the mirror and expects me to pamper her and treat her like a princess. What I believe is - not saying all that they want to hear works best for such women, if you want them to believe that they are like any other girl."
Tease her
Let her believe that there are many good-looking women around with whom you can easily go on a date. A bit of insecurity will make her cling to you more than ever before. If she texts you saying, "Can we meet today?" it is very likely for you to jump right away and say, "Yes, sure. Where can I pick you up?" But wait! Reply rather by saying, "I am busy with work. May be some other time?" Don't be amazed if she drops in at your office to see you! Playing hard-to-get increases her desires for you all the more. Instead of you obsessing about her and what you need to do to make her want you back with equal attention, now she's making a mental map of how to woo you. It just spices up the chemistry and fires up your sexual needs too.
"Overtly attractive women tend to believe that they can have any man they want. But the moment they realise that the man they want is 'not-so-easily-available' it is bound to make them feel uneasy and spark an interest in the man. It's natural for them to be taken aback with a negative response and accept the situation as a challenge to seek his attention," adds Manmeet.
Be different!
All said and done, winning an attractive woman and then keeping her can be a daunting task. So, the idea is to bring out the extraordinary man within you. The moment she is convinced that you are not intimated by her looks and would not lie just to impress her, she will want more of you, just because you are so different from every other guy out there.
Ritesh Chandra, 28, who works with an IT company in Bangalore confesses, "I met a girl at a friend's marriage and have been dating her for three years. She is very good-looking and keeping her from losing interest in me is challenging enough. What works for me is letting her expect the unexpected from me ��� whether it's about conversations, gifts or dates. I don't go overboard to impress her."
"Women usually like men who possess enough self-control and are worth their time and attention. So, if you lie to impress her, she is sure to be put off in the long run. However, it's also important to look at other attributes in a relationship, other than just looks. A caring, understanding and intelligent partner is as desirable as a sex god to a woman. Looks fade with time but a man's character defines the fate of your union in the long run," adds Ritu.
Don't feel inferior
What if she is a sex goddess and you are not? It's very likely for not-so-attractive men to feel inferior being in relationship with a woman who's just too hot to handle. While it may boost your self-esteem to have her as your arm-candy at times, it's also important to live up to her expectations.
"Don't feel sorry for yourself just because you are not as attractive as she is or you don't have enough money in your wallet. Take it as a challenge and start working on your looks, get a make-over or strengthen those qualities she likes the most about you -whether it's knowledge, politeness or any other passion," adds Ritu.
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rakshita.pandey@indiatimes.co.in